The first 11-episode season of the new web series Drunk Girls in Heels is hitting the net later this month. DGIH follows Julia, Nora, and Keely, three best friends in their mid-twenties, as they drunkenly struggle to become the strong, bitter, New York women they’ve seen on so many TV shows. In preparation for the release, the DGIH creators, Julia Sherman, Nora Fullmoon, and Keely Flaherty, sat down with the DGIH stars, Julia, Nora, and Keely, to discuss their creative process.
EDITOR’S NOTE: The girls were originally supposed to meet at the trendy Tea House in Park Slope, but after waiting for an hour, the DGIH creators received a poorly spelled text from the DGIH stars requesting they move the meeting to The Hill in Manhattan, because the stars still had two hours left on their unlimited champagne brunch, and that “ijn’t somehtin u walk away frm sry!11!”
Nora Fullmoon: My first question is for Nora. How did you become involved in the project?
Nora: No one ever becomes “involved” in a project, the project chooses you. This project is something that personally speaks to me in a lot of ways.
Nora Fullmoon: That’s beautiful. When do you feel this project “chose” you?
Nora: Probably when I realized I’m an alcoholic. [silence] What? Wait, isn’t this a casting call for ‘Intervention’?
Keely: Ugh, you are the worst.
Keely Flaherty: My question is for Julia.
Julia Sherman: What?
Keely Flaherty: No, the other one.
Julia Sherman: Oh.
Keely Flaherty: Julia, there are a lot of shows out there right now about 20-somethings struggling to “make it” in NYC, what makes DGIH different?
Julia: Look, I woke up this morning and remembered most of the bars I karaoked at last night, if that’s not making it in NYC, then nothing is.
Keely: Siri. Siri. What time is it? Siri. TIME?
Nora: Ask her if she knows where we can get hotdogs.
Julia Sherman: Didn’t you just each brunch?
Nora: We get here when they open at 10 so we can get the full six hours of unlimited champagne, so we haven’t eaten in…math. Someone help, I’m mathing.
Julia: Five hours.
Keely: Five and a half hours.
Nora: That’s the one!
Keely Flaherty: Right. The series seems to focus a lot on friendship, feminism, and comedy. Tell us—
Keely Flaherty: No what?
Julia: We’re not lesbians.
Nora: Not that there’s anything wrong with lesbians.
Keely: We love lesbians. But write down that we’re not lesbians.
Nora Fullmoon: Ok. I was wondering how you feel about the theory that women aren’t funny.
Nora: Nora, look at me. I’m hilarious. Ask my mom. Seriously.
Keely: Siri, call Mom.
Nora: Not your mom, Keely, COME ON.
Julia: SERIOUSLY, KEELY!
Julia Sherman: Alright, what about the music? The web series features music from six independent Brooklyn-based bands—
Nora: We don’t go to Brooklyn.
Keely Flaherty: Not even for bootycalls?
Julia: Oh, please, Keely!
Nora: Yeah, come on, Keely!
Keely: Seriously, shut UP, Keely!
Keely Flaherty: FINE!
Nora Fullmoon: But really, what about your love lives?
Julia: My ex-boyfriend and I are still close. He and his boyfriend just got an apartment with roof access, so we hang out a lot.
Nora: Yoga is my boyfriend.
Keely: I like not having a sex life. It means I can go twice as long without washing my sheets – woah, maybe longer.
Nora Fullmoon: Moving on. You filmed the entire season in 4 days with a largely female cast and crew. That’s an impressively short period of time—
Julia: [laughing] “Period.”
Nora Fullmoon: Seriously?
Julia Sherman: What do you hope will come from this project?
Nora: Hotdog endorsement, we eat a lot of hotdogs—
Julia: Or liquor.
Keely: Can you infuse liquor with hotdogs? We’d like to get endorsed by whatever that is. Liquordog?
Keely Flaherty: Why should people watch Drunk Girls in Heels?
Nora: Because if you don’t watch it, that’s just being anti-feminist.
Julia: Yeah, Beyonce 2016!
Keely: Siri. Siri. Google “Liquordog.” Siri. LIQUORDOG?
Julia Sherman: Ok, last question. What’s the most important thing you’ve learned from your experiences as the Drunk Girls in Heels?
Keely: The conclusion we constantly found ourselves drawing during this process is that friendship, like wearing heels, is at times difficult – but it makes you infinitely hotter.
Nora Fullmoon: That’s beautiful.
Julia Sherman: Surprisingly eloquent.
Keely Flaherty: Even I’m impressed.
Julia: Yeah, but we’re not lesbians.
Nora: But there wouldn’t be anything wrong with it if we were.
Keely: Yeah, obviously. But write down that we’re not lesbians.
Drunk Girls in Heels will begin releasing three episodes a week starting Thursday September 12th at 9PM EST. Three new episodes come out every Thursday at 9PM EST. Check them out on YouTube, Twitter (@DGIHTweets), Instagram (@drunkgirlsinheels), their website, and on Facebook.
A common problem in new relationships — any kind of relationship, romantic or otherwise — is that when girls really like someone, we’re mean to them. In our heads, we’re saying, “I really respect so much about you — let’s get brunch and talk honestly about our goals in life.” But it comes out as, “Your shirt buttons are buttoned wrong, want me to get you a mirror? Or a new frontal lobe? Or some functional motor skills? You’re an idiot.” I personally spent two months pretending that I hated Billy Joel just so that I could get my then-friend-crush and now-actual-friend’s attention. She loved Billy Joel, and I thought she’d never notice me unless I loudly hated what she loved. I told her that recently, and she found it alarming. It is alarming.
Things get even meaner when you want to date someone, or want someone to want to date you. For some reason, all your higher education degrees and pop culture savvy and passion for recycling disappear, and you revert back to the mentality you had when you liked someone in the first grade, which is basically, “I LIKE YOU SO MUCH I’M GOING TO THROW A ROCK AT THE SOFT PARTS OF YOUR BODY!!!!” The only thing that changes with age is that as an adult, you don’t throw real rocks, you throw metaphorical emotion-rocks about father figures and how effeminate it is for a man to drink clear liquor. It’s part self-protection, part self-sabotage, and in a warped way, a desire to have someone work harder to get to know you — a deeply unfair test that no one ever passes because this is an Orgo Chem test and you’re an English Lit major, but hey, life is unfair, and not just anyone gets to fondle my periodic table, Chaucer. I will Canterbury you in an unmarked grave and no one will miss you. So, inevitably, when you go on a first date with someone and the first words out of your mouth are, “Woah, that leather jacket is tighter than dickskin,” they’re dropping that course and never calling you again. And in a lot of ways, that’s a relief.
In so many ways, getting rejected is easier, because if someone isn’t into you, then whatever, that’s their problem. You get to move on with your single life, nothing changes. Plus, you like not having a sex life, you can go twice as long without washing your sheets — maybe longer. But sometimes, very rarely, you meet someone who knows how to handle your meanness, and that is really a problem. When someone is into you, then…no, really, that’s their problem. They obviously have a problem, there’s a screw loose. There is no way this person is normal. You just told them that you ate store-bought mashed potatoes for breakfast and wept into them for seasoning. They’re not turning tail and sprinting away. This person is insane.
You start to use your best material on them, you do everything within your goddamn power to scare them off. You will out-insane this person if it kills both of you. You talk about your daddy issues, your inability to commit, your Last of the Mohicans sex dream, your Last of the Mohicans murder dream, all your weird body issues, how you hate dick-pics because you think the male body is jarring. You start leaving your anti-anxiety meds out in plain sight. You answer the door inexplicably covered in blood. You fake your own death. You fake your own resurrection. You do it all again. This person cannot be scared off, not even with a machete (you tried).
You begin to think that maybe this is all one elaborate hallucination. You refuse to talk about this person to other people, because you start to think this person might not be real. You won’t even say their name. They have become your own personal Voldemort. You carve a lightning bolt into your forehead and carry a twig around at all times, trying to lumos some reason back into your life. You begin to think maybe this person is a manifestation of your other self; you split in half one night and forgot about it. That makes you capable of asexual reproduction. You’re an amoeba. That’s what this all boils down to: you’re a fucking amoeba.
Weddings are beautiful, rare occasions that bring people together and bind them forever and remind you how very, extremely fucking single you are.
When my BFFL got engaged and asked me to be her maid of honor, I had a serious boyfriend, so I could be genuinely happy for her. Four and a half months before her wedding, I got dumped while I was in the shower, so I had to find a way to keep being happy for her without killing myself. There were only three things that helped: remembering how much I love my BFFL, and alcohol (twice) — ironically, I only cry when I’m drunk, so maybe alcohol didn’t help as much as I’d like to think.
After I got dumped, I decided that I was just going to go to my BFFL’s wedding stag. I was going to get heroin-chic skinny, chop off my hair, pierce my nose, go to the wedding without a bra on, meet the man of my dreams, and then become a millionaire by marketing my new gardening product idea, Chia Dick: Gardening for the Single Gal Who Just Wants to See Something — ANYTHING!! — Grow in Her Presence. After the first two months of shuffling around in a deep post-breakup depression while muttering, “I am the cheese, because the cheese stands alone,” I realized that I had forgotten to get addicted to drugs, and people were beginning to ask me if I was a “maid” or “matron” or honor. I misinterpreted this question and thought they were asking if I owned nicer clothes.
For the final two months leading up to the wedding, I did absolutely nothing except obsessive compulsively create and delete different OKCupid accounts. One of my accounts was just an About Me section that said: If you have health insurance and you’re wearing a clean shirt right now, let’s get married (or at least watch some people get married). My favorite account was a picture of my way hotter friend and one sentence: Dumbledore is my ideal man, but he is fictional (and GAAAAAY!). Neither account landed me a wedding date.
Then, suddenly, the two months were gone. My BFFL and I were at the wedding venue in Pennsylvania with the rest of the bridal party, going over the ceremony. I was standing by a Pennsylvania river watching her rehearse her vows, and something small and vital inside me altered. I consider myself to be a feminist in many ways. Yes, I am terrified of women, but I’m also super glad we can all vote. And I respect my female body enough to not let a man give me a hickey, unless he is willing to give me 12 hickeys that spell out “FEMINISM.” But standing by that river, watching my BFFL recite those vows, I was beginning to think that maybe, just maybe, I wouldn’t be the cheese forever. Maybe this wedding wasn‘t going to destroy me; maybe it was going to revive my faith in relationships.
Until my BFFL finished rehearsing her vows, turned to me, and said, “Hey, soooo we have an uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, so you’re gonna have to walk down the aisle first, by yourself.” I am the cheese, because the cheese *walks alone.
The morning of the wedding, the bridal party went straight into beauty mood. I slept in later than the other bridesmaids because I was awake until 3AM fashioning a noose out of bedsheets, so I missed breakfast. We were given mimosas while we endured having bobby pins shoved into our scalps until we were beautiful. Then we were given more mimosas as we did our makeup. Then we were shuttled to the wedding venue, where we were given glasses of champagne to sip while we got dressed. And as we sipped and laughed and lent each other tampons, someone came in and told us we had 30 minutes until the ceremony started. As my BFFL put her wedding dress on and stood in front of her closest female friends as a single young woman for the last time, I felt something happen: I was starting to cry. Yes, this was a beautiful moment that totally merits crying, but…I only cry when I’m drunk. I hadn’t eaten breakfast and I’d spent the morning drinking champagne cocktails like this wedding was an unlimited brunch. I was drunk.
Thirty minutes later, I walked down the aisle at my BFFL’s wedding, alone, and it was fine. I didn’t trip and fall and die, and I didn’t even think wistfully about my ex. People probably assumed my makeup was smudged because I was feeling deeply emotional about being there for my BFFL on her big day, but I was actually just drunk.
Someone asked me for my number the other day. I didn’t give it to him, but then I walked away and asked myself, “Why am I acting like I have options?” So I went back and gave it to him. This seemed simple enough. In terms of romantic interactions, this seemed like the equivalent of churning butter. You give a guy your number, and he calls/texts you to hang out. There is a definite action and a definite outcome.
Since then, I’ve come to realize that there is nothing as simple as churning butter in romantic interactions. There’s just you sitting in an empty barn, beating the air with a big stick, screaming, ‘WHERE’S THE BUTTER WHY ISN’T THERE BUTTER.” That is, until you receive your first sext:
Then you put down the stick, use it for kindling, and set the barn on fire. The barn is your life. Goodbye.
Getting your first sext is a lot like being born. The warm, happy place where you lived just seconds ago is suddenly ripped away from you, and now you’re cold and wet and naked and screaming at this brave new world where you have to live for the rest of your life. You can never go back to the life you had before you got your first sext. You need to grieve. You need to allow yourself to go through the Eight Stages of Reacting to a Sext.
You want to text him back, “YOU KNOW HOW SPOCK LOVES KIRK? THAT’S WHAT I’M LOOKING FOR CAN YOU GIMME THAT? CAN YOU? DID YOU SEE THE NEW STAR TREK MOVIE? IT’S EXCELLENT,” but you don’t text him that because your therapist just had a chat with you about boundaries. You try to move on and let it go, but you’re haunted by Mr. Sext — you’re terrified he’s going to be around every corner, waiting for you, leaning up against a wall and sensually scrolling through his iPhone. He’s everywhere, just waiting to tell you how adequate his penis is.
The last time I was really and truly single, I was still in college. Apparently, dating outside of college is vastly different. You can’t just walk into a campus coffee shop and strike up a conversation about the Advanced Renaissance Art final with some guy who has statement facial hair. Now you have to get an online dating profile and you have to wear contact lenses and suddenly every person you’ve ever met wants to set you up with their friend/coworker/cousin. You spend about two months being really sad about your last relationship and whining about how lonely you are, so your friends do the friendly thing and try to introduce you to new people who might be willing to make out with you. And for some reason, because you’re being ‘set up,’ you want nothing to do with these prospective dates. You just won’t have that charity shit.
Now you’re back to being a moody teenager. You can do everything yourself, you’re your own person, you don’t need anyone’s goddamn help. You got a 4 on your AP English Literature exam, does that sound like the kind of person who needs help meeting guys? Every day after work, when you just wanna go home and make pancakes for dinner — cause you can do that when you’re single! — your friend texts you, ‘Come to trivia night and meet my guy friend who has a beard and is single and wears plaid a lot just like you do!’ and you text back, ‘I DON’T NEED YOUR CHARITY WHO IS THIS ANYWAY!!!!’ Then you draw little angry faces in your pancakes with a fork, and you eat angry pancakes for dinner instead of just regular, indifferent pancakes.
Plus, you don’t even know if you want to meet someone new. You’re beginning to do that thing your peppy chickfriends told you to do and ‘focus on yourself.’ You’re doing laundry every week, and you’re even separating the colors from the whites. Yesterday, your jewelry matched your outfit! You begin to look back on your former relationship and you’re realizing more and more how much time you spent talking about your feelings. In retrospect, your relationship is looking more and more like one of your old Xanga entries. You think about one of the last arguments you and your ex had:
You: What’s the matter?
Ex: I don’t wanna talk about it.
You: Whatever. Fine.
Ex: Are you seriously mad now? Because I don’t wanna talk about it?
You: No, I just I think we should talk about it.
Ex: I don’t wanna talk about it!
You: OH, WE’RE GONNA TALK ABOUT IT!
Neither one of you even knew what ‘it’ was. You never found out. But ‘it’ is probably one of the main reasons you broke up.
Still, you feel like you’re passing up some pretty cool guys just in the name of not accepting help. Your friend introduces you to a super good-looking guy who goes to Julliard, but he’s wearing a baseball cap, so he and his fraternity brothers probably raped someone in college. Your mom’s friend tries to set you up with her son who’s in medical school and just went through a tough breakup as well, so you’ll ‘have a lot to talk about.’ That sounds like a really fun date, you can both carb-load and then cry into eachother’s hair. But you still go on that date, cause you figure maybe he can write you a prescription for Prozac (spoiler: he can’t). Your coworker brings a guy to a party so you can meet him, and he’s a straight-up Ralph Lauren model. No joke. He’s a fucking model. What is your coworker trying to do to you? Make sure your self-esteem dips so low that you never leave your apartment again, let alone let someone see you naked? You’d totally go on a blind date with this guy — if by ‘blind date’ you mean you would date this guy in a world where you were born blind and don’t know what either one of you looks like. You begin to think your coworker is trying to ruin your life, so you do the safe thing and quit your job.
You just want to meet someone in a spontaneous and perfect way, not in some weird forced set-up pseudo-date thing. You want to be walking down the street one day (preferably in October), in the rain (but a very light rain), in a perfectly form-fitting cardigan sweater, skinny jeans, and Steve Madden boots, and suddenly feel an unexpected gust of wind blow some tall, handsome, intelligent, funny, quirky, sweet, available guy (who really enjoys baked goods, cats, traveling, ramen noodles, poetry (but not in a gay way), and Lord of the Rings trilogies on USA right into your lap. You wish all these people who keep trying to set you up with guys could be as realistic about relationships as you are.
One minute, you’re walking along through life, trying to figure out what it is you’re going to do for dinner — maybe you’ll be really ambitious and buy a cookbook, or maybe just order Chinese food online because that other thing sounds like a lot of work.
Or you’re just sitting in a coffee shop, minding your own business, playing your favorite game. My personal favorite game is called, “Let’s Lie to Everybody!” and the rules are very simple. When someone asks you what you’re doing with your life, you say, “I’m working on a screenplay!” It’s a lie. You aren’t.
Or maybe you’re in the shower, thinking about how great it is that your ingrown toenail has sorted itself out, and then suddenly your boyfriend breaks up with you. While you’re in the shower.
Oh my, wait, that would never happen, would it? That’s something that only happens in Forgetting Sarah Marshall, you say to yourself as your boyfriend breaks up with you while you’re in the shower.
‘I was gonna order Chinese food,’ you say in a haze after your boyfriend breaks up with you while you’re in the shower. Then your boyfriend starts to pack his duffel bag. He starts to leave with all of his worn-out t-shirts that you really love sleeping in, and you’re just not ready to part with those t-shirts, man. You’re just not ready. So you try bargaining with him. ‘Chinese food! I’ll pay! Totally on me!’ But he doesn’t want to do that because he thinks that eating dinner together after breaking up would be inappropriate. So you try to cry, but you were just in the shower so all the tears blend in with the water and he just isn’t buying it. So you start threatening him. ‘If you leave now, I will make sure the Chinese food place knows that you broke up with me while I was in the shower and they won’t ever serve you again!’ And then he and the shirts are gone.
Your peppy chickfriends tell you that this is a great thing, really. Now you can focus on yourself. But you have zero desire to focus on yourself. No part of you is thinking, ‘Yay, I’m single! Now I can paint my nails whimsical colors and eat cake without being judged!’ You’re very worried about how this all will affect your cat, so you focus on that for a while, but then you remember she’s a cat and doesn’t care. You begin walking under construction sites on purpose, fingers crossed that something will fall. You try to go to the gym, but suddenly you realize how depressing your entire iPod is. You’d think you have clinical depression if you didn’t already know that you have clinical depression.
One afternoon you go and see Jack the Giant Slayer by yourself, then start crying uncontrollably at the movie trailer for The Host. You cry even harder at the Man of Steel extended trailer. You walk out of your apartment on St. Patrick’s Day and it smells like beer, so you cry. You wonder, briefly, if vegans can drink alcohol, and then remember that you don’t care. You begin to feel like maybe Diane Keaton is your spirit animal, so you buy a bowler hat. You wear it once and take it back. You start watching the ‘It Gets Better Campaign’ videos and pretending that they were made specifically for you and not at-risk gay teens. You stop showering. The shower is where the bad things happen.
Then, a few weeks later, you go out to a bar. You sit there and drink by yourself, and you feel a little bit liberated and powerful. You’re not wearing a turtleneck for once, so you think maybe your alluring collarbones will attract an off-duty falafel truck owner or — fingers crossed! — an intramural sports star. A guy buys you a drink — a cute guy, wow. He doesn’t mention your collarbones — strike one — but he’s funny and his drink doesn’t have any fruit on the rim, so he might even be straight. And then he tells you that his name is Molar and he makes toys for a living. You sprint home and decide to never drink alone (in public) again.
There is, perhaps, a lesson to be learned from every break up. So you decide to go to a palm reader and see if she knows what that lesson is. She tells you that you’ll travel Europe and find love there, so you pull up your bank account statement on your phone and wave it in her face asking, “EUROPE? REALLY? EUROPE? REALLY?” You ask her if there are any nearby construction sites. She doesn’t know.
And then one day, you’re walking along through life, trying to figure out what it is you’re going to do for dinner — and there’s your ex walking down the street right toward you. He gets within ten feet of you and you black out entirely, of course. But you don’t melt into a puddle of depressed ooey gooey semi-matter, or turn around and run away. You just do the unthinkable and talk to your ex for a cordial thirty seconds, then you each go your separate ways. Maybe you cry afterward. Maybe you don’t. Either way, you buy a whimsically colored bottle of nail polish and throw it out the window later.
I turned 24 years old two weeks ago. I didn’t like it, so today I complained about it to my coworker. He told me, “The only thing worse than getting old is not getting old.” I’m sure that meant something deep and meaningful that I 100% did not understand. What I am 100% sure of is that he was telling me to suck it up. So in honor of sucking it up and getting older, here are the top 10 action movie remakes I want to be watching when I’m 25 years old and living in a retirement home in Florida.
Movies have given me an unrealistic idea of what to expect out of possible career paths.
You battle Evil T-Rex — no, really, T-Rex was so evil he even got nominated for Best Villain at the 1994 MTV Movie Awards — and save a couple of white kids from getting lost in an amusement park. You’re also really good at climbing trees, wearing aviator sunglasses, using seatbelts incorrectly, and never smiling. You carry around a real dinosaur claw with you at all times, just in case you need to threaten fat kids who make disrespectful jokes about dinosaurs. Only you’re allowed to do that.
From what I’ve gathered, being a paleontologist actually has nothing to do with dinosaurs at all. It just only involves squinting a lot, wearing brimmed hats, and constantly poking at piles of dirt with the tools of a dental hygienist.
You get to battle Evil Shark — no, really, Evil Shark is so evil, he is the only animal to be named on AFI’s 100 Years…100 Heroes and Villains list. Your one and only friend is a nerdy marine biologist who is 90% beard, but you also get to become frenemies with an absolutely insane sea captain who is constantly drunk and only might speak English. One night, as you hunt Evil Shark on a leaky boat, the sea captain tells you that Evil Shark killed his best friend during World War II — or at least that’s what you think he told you. It could have been anything, really. In the end, you make Evil Shark explode. By shooting him with a gun.
This is an actual call log taken from the “Sheriff’s Report” section of a small town newspaper.
You get to battle Evil Meteorologist Dr. Jonas Miller — who is not on anyone’s Villains list anywhere ever — and outrun tornadoes every single day. You drive a truck, which is just butch enough to be independent and sexy but not definitively lesbian, and have lots of sexually-charged fights with your ex-husband. Also, you can’t die. No matter what happens, you just cannot die. You literally get eaten by a tornado, and live.
You are currently best known for shitting your pants in the White House.
You get to sing for a bunch of gay guys in top-hats who sing and dance in unison, people constantly give you diamonds for no reason, and your waist is — at most — 23 inches wide (because you’re dying of TB). You live in an elephant-shaped-castle-windmill-thing, and even though there are whispers that you make out with people for money, mostly you just sing duets with them while it rains glitter.
You get a reality TV show.
You live your whole life knowing your main purpose: love. You spend every day with your best friends and playing make believe with Andy, the boy who loves and takes care of all of you! Sure, you and your friends have lighthearted romances here and there while Andy’s at school, but when it comes down to it, you’re all non-functional smooth plastic down there. Life is simple.
When Andy gets infected with Scarlet Fever, you’re suddenly considered a germ sack and sentenced to life in the nursery with an aging porn star named Skin Horse.